Baby It’s Cold Outside…Romantic Holiday Standard, or Outdated Creepy Date-Rape Carol

Let’s start with some history. Baby It’s Cold Outside was written in 1944, and the “characters” in the song were labeled “wolf” and “mouse” on the original score. Originally, a line like “Hey, what’s in this drink” would’ve been interpreted as someone not behaving normally and blaming it on the alcohol. Originally, this song would’ve been interpreted as the mouse/woman putting up a slight protest for appearances sake-which was acceptable in 1944, “what will the neighbors think?”
Here’s the problem though…
This is no longer 1944.
Seventy years have passed.
And A LOT has changed.
Women asking questions like “hey, what’s in this drink?” have led to the development of nail polish that detects the presence of drugs. Protesting for appearances sake have led to false cries of rape when a woman decides that staying over was a bad idea.
(Which makes it harder for actual rape victims to be believed and is the basis for the very loud, very obnoxious “men’s rights” movement.)
Few if any women like to be considered the “mouse” who is being coerced by a “wolf”.
As a woman and a mother of sons I wouldn’t want to be drugged anymore than I would want them to be falsely accused.
We know people who have been drugged.
And we know people who have been falsely accused.
Hell, California has even passed a law stating that “Yes means Yes”.
In that law it states that both partners have to be coherent and agree to sex.
If anyone’s asleep, drunk, or drugged, it doesn’t count as a “yes”.
The whole point of this?
Boo and Keylime are in their school’s theater class.
As part of their winter show, the teacher wants two of the students to perform Baby It’s Cold Outside.
From the first, Boo had a problem with this song, because we’ve discussed it and the importance of taking no for an answer.
A girl in the class was going to audition with it and then she read the lyrics.
One of the other mothers read the lyrics and raised her eyebrows.
On Thursday after class, Boo approached the teacher-the girl was gonna go with him but she had to leave-and explained that he felt this song was inappropriate for teens to sing, comparing it to Blurred Lines (which the teacher had never heard). He explained in particular about the “what’s in this drink?” line. He suggested that either another song be picked or maybe some of the lines could be changed.
I don’t think she quite understood what he was trying to say. I think she felt he had a problem with the fact that the “wolf” and “mouse” are drinking. I was in the room when she was talking to a parent in front of him and explaining why it’s a perfectly fine song and that she thinks some people are just too sensitive.
I wonder if the guy we know whose drink was drugged with GHB, he had a reaction, went into a coma and is now a quadriplegic or the girl who came-to on a pool table would consider themselves too sensitive.
A lot of things that were acceptable or considered “playful” in 1944 are no longer acceptable, and would not be tolerated.
One too many wolves have ruined it for the pack, and Baby needs to go home.

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