Growing Up

So yesterday Boo and I had a talk. He’s decided that he’s going to break up with his girlfriend…
She’s his first girlfriend, and as far as we know, the first girl he’s liked that liked him back. They’ve been seeing eachother since the end of last school year, and they went out a couple times over the summer, texted a lot, and according to him, at this point it really just feels like one more responsibility.
She had a hundred days rule on kissing, that’s come and passed. But he says he’s just not ready yet. He also said that if he kissed her and then broke up with her that he worried she would think that he thought she was a bad kisser. He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings, and I told him that he needs to forget that. Of course her feelings are going ot be hurt, that’s the nature of the beast. When you get into a relationship, it’s kind of a given that at some point one or both of you will be hurt.
She’s a really sweet girl, and her parents are very nice. I told him that as long as he’s honest with her, and that this isn’t because he likes someone else that she should be able to get through it okay.
He told me last night that everything-school, girlfriend, puberty, responsibility is coming on all at once and he’s feeling really overwhelmed…he feels like he’s growing up to fast and he wants to slow down. Having to consider someone else’s feelings about everything you do, especially when you don’t always have the same interests is becoming a pain, plus he has a lot of work to do to prepare for Portfolio Day, he has reports, memorization for his DeMolay group, and not a helluva lot of time to just sit and play video games or just chill.
It upset her that he doesn’t talk to her during classes and he was like “I’m trying to pay attention to the teacher”.
He has a plan for his future, and he knows he needs to work hard and put in the effort to get to where he wants to be. He’d still like to go out with her on occasions, but the commitment involved in being a “boyfriend” is one thing too much for him right now.
This morning I asked him if he slept okay, he said no. I asked him if he was worried about breaking up, and he said no, that he was relieved.
Last night he said he was glad he had me for a mom so that he could talk about things like this.
My Boo is a good boy, and he makes his momma very proud.


3 thoughts on “Growing Up

  1. You’re doing a great job!! They grow up to fast these days. He’s making good decisions to slow down because he had the rest of his life. ❤❤❤

  2. I love this! No wonder you’re proud…such a considerate & thoughtful young man. Some woman is going to be lucky to find him one day..when HE’S ready!!


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